Chicks Getting Hitched: To register or not to register

There are countless perks that come along with marriage – tax breaks, 1,500 or so federal legal benefits and societal recognition of your relationship, for instance. Those are all dandy, but this week I want to talk about the KitchenAid stand mixers, the champagne flutes, the waffle irons, the 1200-threadcount bed sheets and the lush bath towels.

The bridal registry has always boggled me. Why should there be prizes for getting married? Better yet, why should I have to shell out $75 to $200 so you can feather your little love nest, while I eat off of mismatched IKEA plates? There was a time when I thought I’d become the crazy lady at the back of the chapel objecting to the about-to-be-consecrated union if I had to buy one more cookie sheet for a friend who I knew for a fact did not bake or designer china for a co-worker I didn’t even like.

You see, I actually do bake and I throw dinner parties where $100 a place setting china would come in very handy. So yes, the domestic diva in me was a little bitter that she wasn’t on the receiving end of all of these splendid gifts. Single people need plates and bath towels too!

Now that I’m a lot older and a little wiser (and a wedding might actually be in my near future), I’m starting to rethink my, um, rigid stance on bridal registries. Straight friends who might be reading this: Please disregard the paragraphs above. I wasn’t bitter about buying cookware for you. That was about other people, I swear.

So, as more lesbians are becoming brides, I wonder if we’ll hop on the registry bandwagon, or buy our own damn dishes, thank you very much. Let’s not forget that the original intent of a bridal registry was to arm soon-to-be housewives with all the paraphernalia they’d need to keep their new husbands happy and well fed. Things have obviously evolved a bit since June Cleaver’s era. But, that’s the not diminishing the popularity of the bridal registry – 88 percent of engaged couples set up a registry in 2010.