“Sex and the City”: Friends are family

Last Friday, the full-length Sex and
the City
movie trailer was leaked online.



I’ll admit it: I’m excited
about this movie. And I say that as someone who took quite a long time
to become a fan of the show. When it first premiered in 1998,
the glossy-looking previews got me to tune in, expecting a New York–based
comedy along the lines of Friends. What I got seemed a lot more
along the lines of soft porn to me — plus a seemingly endless run
of terrible puns and vacuous-sounding questions from sex columnist Carrie
(Sarah Jessica Parker) — and I just as quickly tuned out. When
friends talked about the show to me, I told them in no uncertain terms
that I couldn’t stand it.

Yet somehow, around the time
of the fifth or sixth season, I found myself taking another look. And
whether it was just because I had gotten older, or because the show had
gotten a lot better, I unexpectedly found myself being drawn into it. Carrie
seemed less brittle, self-obsessed and neurotic to me, and I found myself
noticing what a good friend she was. Prissy Charlotte (Kristin Davis)
had met her perfect match in the short, bald, fat Harry (Evan Handler)
and had loosened up a bit. Slutty Samantha (Kim Cattrall) was
no longer shagging everything that moved, but seemed on the verge of
settling into an actually rather touching relationship with Smith (Jason
) — plus I admired the tough, steely way she was handling breast

And then there was Miranda.

Even before I knew that Cynthia Nixon played for our team (and even before she handled being outed in such a classy, fuss-free way),
Miranda was always my favorite of the four women. Like Dana on The
L Word
, she seemed the most normal, the most relatable, and the
most down-to-earth of the show’s glamorous, high-earning female characters.

Even if they are straight,
I also really liked her relationship with Steve (David Eigenberg). Defensive,
unromantic Miranda’s unwillingness to admit that she liked him made
total sense to me — plus there was the fact that Nixon is such a good
actress (she won an Emmy for her role in 2004). While I can’t find
a clip of my favorite moment between them — where Miranda thinks she
has lost Steve and finally admits she loves him — this one is pretty



The center of the show, of
course, is the friendship between the four women — and, as you might expect,
this is the aspect of it that I most enjoyed. Yes, all the women are
straight. But watching Miranda call after Carrie after they have
had a fight — “Carrie I love you, come back” — or watching the
girls’ supportive reactions to Samantha’s news that she has breast
cancer, it feels like you are watching women who are life partners
emotionally, even if not sexually.

Trying to explain to her boyfriend
Aleks how she feels about Samantha’s illness, Carrie tells him that:
“Samantha is my friend. She’s my family. My insides. She will be fine
because she has to be fine. That’s how important she is to me.” And
as Mr. Big tells Charlotte, Samantha and Miranda in the show’s penultimate
episode: “You’re the loves of [Carrie’s] life, and a guy’s just lucky
to come in fourth.”

If all that’s not enough
of an incentive for you to see the movie, then there’s the fact that
it also features Jennifer Hudson (though how big a role she’ll
play isn’t totally clear from the trailer … and what I really want
to know is, is she going to sing?)

Anyway, to put you in a musical
mood, I’ll leave you with this Sex and the City–inspired video
for the Destiny’s Child song “Girl.” Anything that involves

Beyoncé holding hands with girls works for me:



Are you looking forward to
the movie? Did you love or hate or “eh” the show when it was on
TV? Let me know below.