Morning Brew – Abby Wambach on why she never came out publicly

Good morning!

BuzzFeed has a somewhat spoilery article about next week’s Good Wife. One thing the reviewer noted: The lack of Kalicia feels odd. Sigh. Still?

Not surprising: Orange is the New Black is Netflix’s most-watched series.

London’s lesbian hang Candy Bar is closing in January. The owner says the rent was increased 50% and ain’t nobody got time for that.

Naya Rivera bared a little sideboob at last night’s Elle‘s Women in Hollywood celebration.

Jennifer Lawrence really knows how to work a suit.

Thank you Dior!

Model Elliott Sailors makes a really hot dude. Women doing male modeling is the new awesome.

MTV interviewed out French singer Soko about musical memories.

If you’re wondering why Abby Wambach never came out publicly, it’s because, as she says, no one ever asked.

I’m completely comfortable. It’s funny because I’ve never been asked a question in my soccer world about my relationship, and rightfully so because it shouldn’t matter in terms of anything having to do with soccer. I realize I’m a public figure and people are curious about my private life. I honestly am not the kind of person who would ever want to step up to a podium, test the microphone and be, like, “Hey, I’m homosexual, this is who I am, hear me roar.” I am not the kind of person who likes to talk about myself very often. I’ve been out in my private life for many, many years. This is one of those things that … it wasn’t going to be an issue, because it’s not an issue. I don’t want to give breath to a fire that I don’t feel is a big deal for the rest of the world. I think that we’re past that now. I understand that there are a lot of people who still struggle with it, but I just have never. After I figured it out and came out to my private life, all of my friends and family … it’s almost funny that the public hasn’t really gotten a “confirmation” from me. I wasn’t trying to hide it. We didn’t restrict cameras [at our wedding] because I believe that people should feel free to express themselves in whatever way they want to. If they want to keep it a secret, I think that that’s great, too. But for me, I’ve never really kept it a secret: I’ve just never been approached in way that I quote unquote needed to come out. I really just try to take it as an organic way of, it was my way, and if you know me I’m not going to do anything that I don’t want to do, but this isn’t something that has given me grief, this isn’t something that I fretted over for years. If you know who I am and you’re a part of my personal world, you know that it’s a very open subject that you can come and talk to me about. When you get married, it’s a big deal and I realize that. I think that the statement of just being married and being with the person I want to be with for the rest of my life should be the only focal point of the subject. It shouldn’t matter who the other person is. I really feel strongly about that.

It’s hard to explain, but I think that, for me, I can’t speak for other people, but for me, gone are the days that you need to come out of a closet. I never felt like I was in a closet. I’ve always felt comfortable with who I am and the decisions I make because I feel like I’m very levelheaded when it comes to living life. This whole circumstance and how it happened was perfectly me. It was exactly the way it should have been because it’s life, and I can’t argue with the way things go down.

Every year some weirdo thinks Girl Scouts are selling lesbian cookies. Listen, Kevin Swanson, I haven’t been a Girl Scout in years and most of the time, my mom was peddling my wares. I promise you she’s straight and, either way, the cookies taste the same.

ABC has given us some dates for our calendar.Pretty Little Liars is back for Season 4 on January 7. The Fosters returns for the second part of Season 1 on Monday, January 13.

You know you want to read this: “When Amazon went to war with lesbians.” It’s not what you think!

So Amber Heard is on the cover of Harper’s Bazaar Russia. She looks stunning (duh) but, um, do they know she’s queer? She could have been arrested during her photoshoot.

I think we’d have a few to add to this list, but it’s a good start: Top 10 Gay Characters on TV in the ’90s.

Kate Moennig has designed a pair of rad boots for Wildfang. You can buy a pair for yourself.

Today in Lesbianish TV: The Ellen DeGeneres Show, *Buffy (FX 7 a.m., 8 a.m.), *Ellen (FX 9 a.m.), *The People’s Couch (Oxygen 10 a.m., 10:30 a.m.), *Pretty Little Liars marathon (ABC Family 11 a.m.), *Grey’s Anatomy (Lifetime 1 p.m., 2 p.m.), The Talk (CBS 2 p.m.), *Secrets of a Restaurant Chef (Food Network 2 p.m.), *Black Ink Crew marathon (VH1 5 p.m.), Jane Velez-Mitchell (HLN 7 p.m.), Pretty Little Liars (ABC Family 8 p.m., 12 a.m.), The Biggest Loser (NBC 8 p.m.), The Rachel Maddow Show (MSNBC 9 p.m.), *Jersey Strong (Pivot 9 p.m.), Real Husbands of Hollywood “Fund Raising Hell; Hell of a Fundraiser” (BET 9 p.m.), *Friends “The One with the Truth About London” (TV Land 10 p.m.), Boys Don’t Cry (HBO Signature 10 p.m.), Chicago Fire (NBC 10:01 p.m.), Totally Biased with W. Kamau Bell (FXX 11 p.m.), *Raising McCain “Bullying” (Pivot 11 p.m.), Basic Instinct (Encore 11 p.m.), Joan Jett on The Tonight Show with Jay Leno (NBC 11:34 p.m.), Primary Colors (MoreMAX 12:20 a.m.) (Thanks Roni!)

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