Kendall Oshiro and Genevieve Hernandez on having their wedding officiated by Carrie Brownstein

Kendall Oshiro and Genevieve Hernandez were married last night at an impromptu ceremony ministered by Carrie Brownstein at the Pasadena Presbyterian Church in Pasadena, California. The couple were planning to elope, but when they heard from a friend on Monday night that Carrie was an ordained minister, they got their marriage license and went to see Carrie in conversation with Amy Poehler the very next night, hoping to have them both sign as minister and witness.

“My wife and I had tickets to the talk in Pasadena on Tuesday, so I said to her, ‘How cool would it be for Carrie Brownstein and Amy Poehler to have their signatures on our wedding license?’ We kind of brushed it off, having a good laugh at the idea, but then it got kind of ingrained in me,” Kendall said.

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At first, Kendall said she was worried about taking the attention away from Carrie, who was talking with Amy as part of her book tour for the new memoir Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl.

“The event should be about her, not us,” Kendall said. “I was also worried about spending the money on a marriage license and not getting to use it . But my wife said, ‘We lose $60, but the potential to get married by two of our favorite people makes it worth it.'”

Although the couple are fans of both Carrie and Amy, Kendall is a huge fan of Carrie’s band Sleater-Kinney.

“I was in my late teens when I discovered them and immersed myself into their music and anything else from the riot grrrl era,” Kendall said. “It’s that time in your life where you aren’t sure of yourself, about who you are and who you are becoming, but Sleater-Kinney helped ease that transition. Although I admire [Carrie’s bandmates] Corin [Tucker] and Janet [Weiss] immensely as well, Carrie is such a creative outlet that I find her inspiring, someone to aspire to be in terms of work. I love her bands, present and past, and her show Portlandia, of course.”

So last night, they got their license and drove to Pasadena for the event.

“I was incredibly nervous, but also trying to take the whole situation with a grain of salt We were expecting a polite ‘no’ so we weren’t trying to get our hopes up,” Kendall said. “When I was standing second in line at the mic on the balcony, I was shaking, looking to my wife for guidance, but she laughed anxiously and hid behind me. I was asking something rather insane of two people who didn’t know me, in front of 500 strangers. I felt like I could melt into a puddle.”

But Carrie said yes.

“After both Carrie and Amy gave us the OK, my wife and I went into a complete state of shock, but in the best way,” Kendall said. “We were laughing, smiling, on the verge of happy tears. We were nervous, excited. Not only were to of our favorite people going to participate in our wedding, but we were marrying each other. Amy’s rendition of ‘Greensleeves’ and Carrie’s incredibly heart-felt speech was so much more than I could ask for. I could never thank them enough for allowing this to happen.”

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Although during the ceremony Kendall said she met Gen through mutual friends, she said they actually met online, as so many other modern couples do.

“[I was] too embarrassed to admit that, at my age—I was 20, she was 21—I was on a dating site where we had actually met. However, my wife had no problem telling the truth to 500 strangers,” Kendall said. “We had our first date at Griffith Park, and have been together ever since for almost three and a half years.”

There was never an official proposal, though Gen did get Kendall an engagement ring and had one all planned out.

“But since we came up with this crazy idea, we skipped the formalities and I saw the ring for the first time on stage,” Kendall said.

Besides the on-stage moment, Kendall said it was incredible just to be able to go to the courthouse for their marriage license and have there be no issue for them as a same-sex couple.

“We had this moment of realization on how far the LGBT community has come,” she said. “It was so easy to get a license. There was no discrimination, we are so lucky to not have experienced it like others have before us. We felt humbled and appreciative of how much people before us have fought for our right to marry. To me, it helps illustrate how harmless same-sex marriage is, since many people still argue that it’s a threat to society. We haven’t destroyed any heterosexual marriages yet as far as I know.”

Kendall and Gen are so thankful to Carrie and Amy for the opportunity and that the audience was “supportive and patient.” Of course, Kendall loved Carrie’s new book, too.

“Reading her memoir has also given me a larger appreciation for her, especially since there were things I could relate to,” Kendall said. “She’s also really, really nice.”

Who says you shouldn’t meet your heroes, or ask them to perform your wedding ceremony?