Lesbianing with AE! This Week: Packing in public and people who don’t believe you’re really gay

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I recently got my first dildo and have been enjoying it. I’m tempted to start packing when I go out to feel sexy and fun, and because I love how powerful I feel when I’m wearing my dildo. I’m looking for the right toy for that – when I try packing with the dildo I have, I look ridiculous. Do you have any tips for a butch new to packing?

– Unpacked

Hi Unpacked,

While you can pack with a hard dildo, many lesbians enjoy wearing a soft or realistic dildo for this, so they look like your average guy with a non-erect cock. You can pack with a hard dildo, but it’s kinda obvious, and unless you’re at a sex club, it’s probably not the look you’re going for.

The downside of a soft pack is you can’t use it for penetrative sex, so if you’re looking to engage in public sex, it’s not going to help you out.

There is a compromise “pack and play” packer, which is just what it sounds like. It’s soft, so you go incognito (unless you’re in yoga pants) but has a bendable center, so you can pull it out and use it.

Some lesbians use a harness to hold their packer, while others wear a jock strap and tuck the packer into it. Some wear guys’ pants, which offer roomier crotches; some like the gender-fuckery of packing in ladies’ clothes. Try out both approaches and see what makes you feel most sexy.

Some lesbians use a harness to hold their packer, while others wear a jock strap and tuck the packer into it. Some wear guys’ pants, which offer roomier crotches; some like the gender-fuckery of packing in ladies’ clothes. Try out both approaches and see what makes you feel most sexy.

Either way, it’s not uncommon to feel strange when you first start packing. Before you go out in public, practice packing at home. I’m sure you’d rather realize your packer is too small for your harness when it pops out while you’re cleaning the kitchen than over a lunch date with a cutie.

Since packers can be pricey, determine the ideal size and stiffness before you buy. Decide whether you want a realistic cock or a purple glitter packer. You can experiment with rolled-up socks or your dildo to get a feel for the size and shape that turns you on.

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