Interview With Elvira Kurt

AE: When you were a kid, did you imagine how your own wedding would be? Tell me what you had in mind.
Bizarrely enough I did. But only because my friends at that age were such girlie girls and they made me come up with one. I decided I wanted to get married on a ski vacation, midslope. I would treat all my friends, and we’d go somewhere like the Alps. Even now it sounds very grade eight.

AE: And as an adult, you got hitched! What was that like?
My partner, Chloe, planned the most beautiful wedding. It was in an old, historic schoolhouse, which combined my nerdy love of Toronto’s history with her nerdy academic profession as a university professor. Her stepfather, an Anglican priest, married us, and the reception was in a hall attached to the schoolhouse where we had a killer all-chick band of top-notch performers, one of whom is a dear friend of ours.

We also had an amazing DJ who is a beloved ex of Chloe’s – I know, how lesbionic – great food, incredible friends and family. It was one of the best days of my life. Oh, and Chloe was seven months pregnant. In the photos you can barely see the shotgun.

AE: What do you think is the appeal of the show?
I think it’s fun to watch real people do something you’re either thinking of doing or that you would never do. You get to be a voyeur as well as gauge how you’d do in the same situation. So the real appeal of the show is that it manages, in the end, to be all about you. What’s not to love?

AE: What’s a song that should never be performed at a wedding?
Hmm, that’s a toughie. I’d say it’s a tie between "Who Let the Dogs Out?" and anything by Clay Aiken. The one exception would be a cover version of "Who Let the Dogs Out?" by Clay Aiken. That right there is first dance material, my friends.

AE: A friend of mine has decided to boycott his straight friends’ weddings unless they’re getting married in a state or country where same-sex unions are recognized. Is that an extreme stance? How should we get across to straight friends that gay marriage is an issue they should care about?
Boycotting a straight wedding is lazy and boring. Actively protesting a straight wedding is a bolder statement. Marching outside the church or temple brandishing picket signs with earnest slogans in magic marker like, "Until it can be Adam and Steve, NO to Adam and Eve!" – now that’s taking a stand. Bonus points for getting the reception to do a call-and-response to "What do we want?" and "When do we want it?" with "Homo weddings!" and "Now! Unless it’s a long weekend!"

As for getting straight friends to care about gay marriage, who are you talking about? Your true friends will already care about gay marriage. The straight people who don’t are the ones who probably don’t care about a lot of things like, say, the environment or the lack of affordable health care or homelessness. Getting through to those people will take something monumental and needs to hit close to home, like Mark Foley and Ted Haggard announcing their engagement to each other. Oops, don’t want to give away Season 3 …

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First Comes Love airs Monday nights at 10 p.m. EST on Logo.